Instant revanche? Mental disturbance?

So many times! When I win -- rare enough -- my opponent instantly, in a bullet minute, faster than I have ever been able to make a move, knee jerk reaction, starts the "revanche" light blinking. (rematch, if you are limited to english)
It irritates me. Why? Not merely because I never, never, do rematch. Their request, proposal, should have no effect. I should just ignore it, and go on analyzing that game, finding another opponent, maintaining my equilibrium. Instead I curse the screen, give the unknown unseen opponent a finger, disturb my own mood.
Why? Because it seems so mentally unstable, childish, that automatic response. To me, the request for revanche is saying "come on you idiot; you beat me that time, but I'm better than you; I dare you to play me again; I'll show you" It seems so tawdry.
I accept that maybe the request is only a good sporting gesture, like playing another game at the club. It doesn't feel that way. A loss affects me also, but it is not my quick unthinking reaction to try to rev up a conflict.
Okay, I spouted my venom. Tell me how wrong I am.

I actually Agreed with You, I feel same in some ways, reason of anger mostly is that you gain nothing from loose- you wasted time , energy, and was crashed beign your efforts turn into nothing,aslo it hits, when you missed some chances in game , and you saw them right after a move. I don't like bullet game at all, they re not chess, that speed makes no sense at all, better to Play Blitz, that is quite balanced between thinking and time, so loose there can be more smooth and not so harmful, but anyways, just press that anger feeling to the end, and gain energy from it, then you may work on mistakes better , and it will be easier to play again( not with same opponent of course)

@sparowe14 said in #1:
> I curse the screen, give the unknown unseen opponent a finger, disturb my own mood.
> Why? Because it seems so mentally unstable, childish

I see...

In a close defeat, not choosing to accept a rematch is like saying "I don't think I can defeat you again" , to me atleast.

@Chessviathan I definitely don't think I could defeat you twice.

Or maybe like saying "I beat you once and that's good enough for me."

@sparowe14: Storm in a teacup. It ́s only chess, we ́re online, and there are real people out there beyond your four walls with whom it ́s actually possible to interact in a more satisfying way. Wishing you all the best with your problem.

So many people complain that their rematch is declined.

Now you complain that there is a rematch request at all.

This world is confusing!

It is just as silly to be offended by receiving a rematch offer as to be offended by getting an offer declined.

If you don't want a rematch, decline it and that's it. No reason to make a drama out of it.

@nadjarostowa said in #8:
> So many people complain that their rematch is declined. Now you complain that there is a rematch request at all. This world is confusing!

I'm starting to suspect that anything I do - or do not do - on this site can be taken as an offense by someone. In a sense, it's liberating as it means it's futile to try not to offend anyone so that I don't have to try too hard. :-)

@mkubecek said in #9:
> I'm starting to suspect that anything I do - or do not do - on this site can be taken as an offence by someone.

That ́s online chess players for you :) I ́m on climbing forums, running forums, cooking forums, fishing forums, parents ́ forums, and it ́s all uncomplicated and fun; nobody feels insulted unless you actually do insult them. Chess does seem to attract the overly sensitive introverts :)